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I work with adults, young people (11+) and parents, offering in-person therapy near Ashley Cross (Poole) and Christchurch, Dorset. I work with clients across Poole, Bournemouth, Christchurch and surrounding areas.

I work in ways that support you. You might come with something specific you want to explore, or you may want to look at different parts of your life and see how the work lands. Therapy can be short‑term or long‑term depending on your needs.

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Starting where you are

If you’ve spent years holding things together, therapy shouldn’t mean suddenly pulling everything apart, that’s rarely helpful. We start with what’s happening in your life now, the symptoms, triggers, or situations that feel difficult and what you would like to change. We work to help you feel steadier and more grounded, before any deeper work is explored.

Understanding what still helps, and what doesn’t

We can’t change what happened to you like the trauma, the childhood experiences, the loss but we can explore how these continue to shape your work, relationships, friendships and family life and how you care for yourself. Together, we can find new ways of responding that work for you now.

No fixed plan

Life doesn’t follow a script, and therapy doesn’t either. If something changes in your life, we shift and work with it. Therapy is flexible and responsive to your needs, we check in regularly to make sure the work is helping you in the ways you need.

An integrative approach

As an integrative therapist, I draw from different therapeutic approaches rather than expecting one way of working to fit everyone. Sometimes talking, making sense of things and noticing what comes up is what helps.

When words feel difficult, we may use visuals, objects, or creative tools that help bring your inner world into the room. For younger clients this might include games like Uno, Lego, or diamond art; for adults, this can work just as well too.

I may notice what’s happening in your body as you talk, a shift, a pause, a movement and gently explore what that might mean, or gently look at what feels difficult to say. This forms part of the somatic trauma informed work we may do.

I will always check with you before we try anything new or different, it is always ok to say no or stop it at any time.

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Areas of work include:

  • Adoption and care experience, consider the impact of separation, loss, uncertainty or disrupted relationships and how these shape identity, connection and your sense of safety.
  • Childhood experiences that continue to shape your present, including abuse, neglect, loss, difficult or harmful relationships, parent separation, blended families.
  • Relationships and attachment, exploring attachment patterns, trust, rejection sensitivity, conflict and people‑pleasing.
  • Communicating needs in relationships, families and friendships.
  • Responsibility & over functioning, a feeling that you need to hold everything together, care for others or fix situations, while having little space for your needs.
  • Life events that reopen old feelings,  bereavement, endings, becoming a parent, changes in family circumstances or other significant events that bring earlier experiences to the surface.
  • Neurodivergence, masking, adapting, exhaustion, self‑understanding and feeling different or as though you don’t quite fit.
  • Emotional needs in young people, creating space to understand what might be underneath behaviour such as anger, withdrawal, anxiety, change or difficulties connecting with others.
  • Supporting emotional regulation and helping young people make sense of what they’re experiencing.
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Session Information

Getting Started

We begin with a free initial 20-minute call, a chance to ask questions and see whether working together feels right. If you decide to continue, our first session will focus on exploring how therapy can help and understanding what you’d like to get from our time together. We’ll check in on this regularly as we continue.

  • Individual Therapy
    £70

    50 minutes – Weekly 
    Face‑to‑face in Ashley Cross (Poole) or near Christchurch, Dorset

  • Parent Sessions
    £110

    75 minutes – Weekly 
    Face‑to‑face in Ashley Cross (Poole) or near Christchurch, Dorset

  • Online is also available when appropriate.
    A limited number of reduced-rate places are available. Please ask when we speak.

Ready to take the first step? Send me an email or fill in the contact form and we’ll arrange your free 20-minute call.

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FAQs

What if I don’t know where to start?
You don’t need to arrive with a clear story or a list of things to talk about. Many people begin therapy simply knowing something feels heavy or out of place. We can start wherever feels manageable — even if that’s just noticing how you’re feeling in the moment.
What if I find it hard to put things into words?
Words aren’t always easy to find, especially when emotions feel big or tangled. We can use other ways of exploring your inner world — visuals, objects, creative tools, or simply noticing what’s happening in your body. There’s no “right” way to express yourself here.
What if I get emotional in a session?
Emotions are welcome. Therapy is a space where feelings can show up safely, and we take things gently. You won’t be rushed or pushed to go further than feels okay. We can pause, slow down, or ground together whenever you need.
How long will therapy take?
There’s no set timeline. Some people come for a short period to explore something specific; others stay longer as they make sense of deeper patterns. We check in regularly so the work continues to feel meaningful and manageable for you.
Can therapy help if I feel disconnected from myself?
Yes. Much of the work involves gently noticing what’s happening inside — your emotions, patterns, and protective parts — so you can reconnect with the version of yourself that’s been there all along.
Do I need to have experienced trauma to have therapy?
No. Some people come because of something specific that happened. Others simply feel that something isn’t right, or that life has been more about surviving than living. You don’t need a “big enough” reason. If it’s affecting you, it’s worth exploring.
What happens in a first therapy session?
We begin with a free 20-minute call, where you can ask questions and see whether working together feels right. If we continue, then our first session focuses on what you’d like from therapy and how it can help. You don’t need to prepare anything or share your whole story. We go at your pace.